Side effects of dating a narcissist
They were also asked to rate the physical attractiveness of other participants by looking at photos of them.
Then came the dates themselves, and after each three-minute hang, the participants rated them on how much they wanted to be friends with that person, and how much they’d like to pursue a short-term relationship — like a one-night stand, friends with benefits, or a booty call, dutifully described by authors as “arranging meetings purely for sex on an ad hoc basis” — or a long-term, honest to goodness relationship.
In Greek mythology, Narcissus is an annoyingly handsome young lad who is warned by a blind seer that if he should ever catch sight of his reflection (hard to come by, back in the day) his would-be long life would be cut short.
Then, as one does in Ancient Greece, he comes upon a still pond, sees how outrageously good-looking he is, and looks at his reflection until he metaphorically and literally dies of his vanity.
Both my essays and general outlook on life are typically quite positive and idealistic.
This attitude has served me very well over the years.
Researchers have theorized that these love-killing behaviors are impulsive and that narcissists can't help themselves.
But, I've been reminded lately, through a very painful experience, that negativity can take many ugly forms, .
The past year of my life has been an absolute rollercoaster of emotion — the highest of highs mixed with the lowest of lows.
If you've ever had a partner who flirted with other people right in front of you, chatted up attractive strangers and tried to make you feel like you couldn't measure up, well, maybe you were dating a narcissist. New research suggests that people who have a high level of narcissistic traits strategically induce jealousy in their mates as a way to meet certain goals: Control, in some cases, or a boost in their self-esteem.
"There is some element of normality to narcissists, in that they pursue goals much like everyone else does," said study author Gregory Tortoriello, a psychologist at the University of Alabama.